Don’t Do It Alone… Let Others Help
“Am I the only one who cried when my mom left after I’d had my baby?”
This was a quote from a friend on Facebook, long before I had my baby. I thought it was kind of dumb at the time… “I can handle it alone,” I thought. I’ve since learned that the help and support of family and friends makes all the difference when dealing with a new baby and a deployment.
This past weekend was a lot of fun. I took Pippa and we headed to Bend to visit the in-laws. Pippa was swarmed with love and attention from Grandma & Grandpa as well as Auntie, Uncle and three energetic cousins. It was great, and I really appreciated all the extra hands to hold baby and give me a bit of a break.
[It was really hot so we took P to the pool with her older cousins. She was not a fan at first when I dipped her feet in the water. But after the initial shock, she didn’t mind it too much… just a little unsure what was happening.]
It has been so awesome to have so much help with the baby. She’s 11 weeks old now and I’ve had a ton of help from my parents and Adam’s parents. Before I had kids, I never thought that during a deployment I would need any help. I was “too independent” and I thought I’d be able to handle it all alone. But having help has been a life saver!
I know that if I had to, I could do it on my own. As military wives, we do so much each and every day on our own without a second thought. I’d just never get a shower or eat any vegetables. Good thing Mom cooks me veggies! LOL. The funny thing is, even if she puts a plate down in front of me, half the time I can’t even eat it because I’m off changing a diaper or up burping my precious little one.
One of the biggest things I’ve learned is that it’s important to ask for help… and to be willing to receive it. Whether from family, friends, the spouse’s club or FRG. Even if you’re like me and super independent. Don’t try to do it alone… life is better when we have the help and support of others.