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Sittercity Helped Our Marriage Recover From Our PCS

 

Moving to a new place took a lot out of me. It wiped me out, frustrated me, and threw me off of my routine. It also knocked my marriage a bit out of whack– nothing major but just the every day enjoyment took a dive. I would say that overall, stress was the cause. Amazingly, sittercity.com was key in bringing me us back in sync.

Military life adds a lot of stress to life and it adds stress to relationships, especially during a move. I became irritated at the tiniest things hubby did. Normally those things would be funny or they wouldn’t have bothered me at least. But amidst all the craziness of moving, those same things would spiral me into irritation, frustration, and just plain wanting to be in a different room for the next 10 hours. No, I didn’t sleep in a different room. I’m talking about the day!

Back In The Day

Before we had a kid, we used to go on tons of date nights. Once the child arrived, he deployed and date nights were non-existent. After he returned from deployment, we started going out again. It was really tough to leave the baby at first, especially if she was crying when we walked out the door. Ugh. My heart was so torn because I really wanted to get out but I didn’t want to leave her.

Hubby was very patient and never pressured me to leave. He even offered to go back when I was huddled in the front seat moaning that it was so hard to leave her. Luckily I stuck it out and it got easier every time. We developed more trust in our babysitter, and I was able to relax and not be so afraid of leaving her. And by the way, before having a child, I was always one to promote parents going out and having date night. I just never realized how hard it was to actually do.

Present Time

Once we moved here, we had a lot of built up stress and we hadn’t really built into our relationship in a while. I was even stressed about just finding a babysitter in a strange new city where we didn’t have any contacts to recommend anyone.

I bit the bullet and signed up for SitterCity (free membership for military families on http://SitterCity.com/dod !). I was hesitant to use the system because I didn’t know what kind of person I would find. I wasn’t too thrilled to bring a psycho stranger into our home to watch our daughter. But I gave it a try.

I had to weed through a couple of odd ducks… one gal who thought giving an hour’s notice to cancel a babysitting job was plenty of time… another gal who wanted to rush through all the steps and just come over before I was ready. But in the end, we found two quality people with clean backgrounds, great personalities and lots of experience with kids.

Thank You SitterCity

Now that we’ve been out on quite a few dates again, we are having so much fun as a married couple again. I know that it helps that we are more settled in our place and more into a routine. PCS season just takes a toll for a while.

But the date nights have been instrumental. We can take a couple of hours and not feel the weight of wondering if the baby is ok. My mommy brain can turn off and I can focus on my hubby and having fun. Half the time we just talk about how much we love our kiddo, but we do reserve time for adult conversation too.

Even though it has taken us a while, I feel that we are finally overcoming the PCS stress and settling into a more normal routine. I’m already looking forward to our next date night out! Hope you get some time as a couple soon too!

xoxo,
Heather

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